Once in awhile, we all need a reality check.
Goodhearted people tend to feel they are the blame for someone else's mistake or lapse in judgment. Too often they take on the weight of the world on their shoulders, even when there's no obligation or fault. People will and may make you feel responsible for their feelings. But why are you feeling guilty? Grown ups make their own choices. Don't get caught up playing martyr.
Here's the thing... if you want to get better at anything in life, then you have to be willing to push yourself. You have to be willing to challenge yourself and try things that you never believed you were capable of, trying things you thought were simply off-limits to you.
It means pursuing the things you want, not just the things you think you can achieve. AND you’re going to screw up. You’re going to get rejected. It’s inevitable. There will be many, many times when you will have what seems like a sure-thing and you will trip over your toes, do something stupid and obvious and manage to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. I couldn't tell you how many times I've fallen and had to pick myself off the floor from rejection, both professionally and personally.
• Be willing to take push, challenge, try, discard, and forgive yourself.
• Location: Phoenix, AZ
So you have to be willing to forgive yourself. It’s easy to be angry with yourself, to blame yourself and want to just dwell on all the ways you did things wrong… but it doesn’t do you any good. And if there’s anything I hope that you’ve taken from all my writings, is that you need to be willing to discard that which is not useful. And hanging on to all of your previous rejections, failures and screw-ups is the literal opposite of useful. It happened, it’s over, and it’s put you on the path to where you are now… and following that path is going to be what helps you find what you’re looking for... One more thing, Phoenix I still am in love with you. See you on the runway in 15 ♥
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