Readiness

Love finds you when you're ready to receive it.

Said goodbye to birthday month and well hello to Fallorado. Birthdays tend to force me to know how to be solitary because as we know I thrive off people's energy as an extrovert. The art of loving is central when we can be alone and we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.

During my birthday month, I always partake in a ritual of reminding myself to do reflection on my character and who I have become over the year. I am so very lucky to have incredible people hold me accountable as well as my own sense of personal responsibility. The beautiful souls that surround me are cut from the same cloth, one that is uniquely special and custom fabric of integrity and deep caring love.

When we think of toxic relationships, we think the worse. Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because of their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren't inherently bad people, but they aren't the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can't destroy yourself for the sake of someone else.

You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care deeply about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful. You have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself. You are not weak because your heart feels so heavy. The thing is that they needed to happen to you so that you can gain balance with yourself.

Never be ashamed of how much you love or how quickly you fall. Love fully, love completely. Most importantly, love naturally and don't you ever apologize for it. Don't ever be sorry for loving the way your heart knows.

Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another; they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives; they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality.

Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. This is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don’t; they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is about receiving. Readiness is everything.

• Crush on life and it will love you back tenfolds. Anchor in love with infinite possibilities.

• Location: San Clemente Pier l San Clemente, CA

You will come into each other's lives at the exact moment when we are ready. In the right space, you will be heard without shouting. You will be seen without showing your wounds. You will be understood without changing who you are. You can be yourself without any need to alter you.

From that moment, it is just you and him with infinite possibilities... the future ahead of us.

Grounded by dreams and reality, our life and love flows effortlessly, always gentle, always strong, and moving forward. Together we are anchored in love and present in the moment ♥