I love when people share personal thoughts on what love means to them, how they express it, and what it has taught them about themselves or others. Some stand out. Some I take snippets. When people ask me how and why do I love the way I do, I simply love because it is impossible to stop. What's the other choice? Survive on a diet of hate where it eats at your soul?
Here is my take on the whole dating thing. It should first and foremost be easy, effortless and fun. Secondly, love is as plentiful as oxygen. You simply have to breathe it in. And thirdly, you can’t be too well guarded that even birds do not fly there. Because a place where birds do not fly is a place where people do not mix, ideas do not get sparked, friendships do not get forged, stereotypes do not get broken, collaboration does not happen, trust does not get built and love does not flourish. That is not the kind of place you want to be...living in a defensive crouch.
Every person that walks through your life is different. And must always be judged for them, their merit.
Someone may make you feel so unwanted now. But you have the option to always reinvent what you want.
You have to take risks and fail. Should the opportunity present itself, it can scare you to death, reappear and disappear without explanation. And if you are afraid, you are not yourself. I am sure love will come back. Love can come back but not if you remain on the wrong track.
As I strongly believe, we accept the love we think we deserve.
Love is the feeling we have for those we care deeply about and hold in high regard. it can be light as the hug we give or heavy as the sacrifices we make. It can be romantic, platonic, familial, fleeting, everlasting, conditional, unconditional, amplified by kindness, leavened by generosity, twisted by betrayal, deepened by time, darkened by difficulty, nourished by humor, and loaded with promises and commitments that we may or may not want or keep.
I believe love, in any relationship whether friendship or intimate, is not performance based where certain #expectations must be met or performed to receive love. You love someone because you want to promote their well being. It is about raising them up when they cannot do it themselves. It is about shaking, waking up, and jostling their soul to what they cannot see before their eyes.
I have learned that to truly love someone, you have to practice loving everyone. Be brave. Be authentic. Practice and keep practicing. And whether it works out into future years is irrelevant. It is an opportunity to know and love someone at the simplest term. Call it practice to love more, love better, so when you met the person, you would not be stumbling around. When they do arrive, you are not all thumbs...well just at speed texting McDreamy ♥
me. you. bed. now .
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